relationship.

okay, i know.
i'm going to talk about relationship today.
i had my fair share in relationship, so i think i know about relationship, a little maybe.

first, you need to know the type of relationship.
what kind of relationship do you have, the serious one, the messing around one, or a casual one.
for me, the messing around is the one where you are seriously messing around, like you don't really have true feelings towards them. and the casual one is like a casual relationship, where you don't take any vows to be together forever after laladida. and the serious one, of course, the one true love of you life.

then you need to know how to make the relationship work.
first thing first, like everyone said, honesty is the best policy. you need to be honest with your partner in everything and anything. i know some guys said that white lies are okay because they don't want their girls to make something out of nothing, but trust me. if you lied about small things, that will make us girls think you will lie about bigger stuffs. then, trust. if your partner do things you don't really like or anything that makes you think you can't trust them, STOP and think again. it is really worth it to start a scene? the third one is try.try to make it work, try to do fun things with your partner. when you think that you started to get bored with your partner, try to do new things. just don't stop trying. but if the feelings die, then it's time to let it go.

major mistakes we always do in relationship.
the most common mistakes girls do is become clingy. when you are in a relationship, it doesn't mean that you lose yourself. of course you want to do everything with your lovers, but come on, get a life. he doesn't need to be anywhere you are, you doesn't need his permission to do everything. then stop being whiny. it's cute sometimes, i know. but come on, even you will hate it if your friends do that to you. the third one is, become bossy. urgh this is the major mistake anyone can make. you are his girlfriend, not his mom. don't boss him around, that will totally turn him off. for guys, i think common error is becoming a jerk. now cool down, in front of his girlfriend, they will become sweet but in front of his friends, he will totally change. of course i don't say you have to be a sweetie pie but just don't be a jerk. treat your girlfriend nicely even in front of your buddies. then don't promise things that you know you don't want to do or you can't do. just say it, it will hurt her of course, but in short term, rather than let her hanging and then hurt her.


stories about MY relationship.
i think i learned love the hard way. i always think that. i found love and i threw it. then i find another love. until one day i found someone, who was quite a match for me. no, not a real match. but we both were messy. we kept playing with each others heart. we broke up and then we made up just so that we can broke up again. and i forgot who was the last to stop this, and the reason why we broke up for real. i regrets ever meeting him. because of him, i changed a lot. but i can't say i didn't learn anything from this relationship. i learn about myself, i learn about my attitude and behavior, and i learn to love myself. really he taught me things, and some things that i wished i hadn't learn. and after this guy, i met a really special guy that still touches my heart sometimes. i know no one is perfect, but he was so sweet and he was what any girl want, but any girl is not me. i know i hurt him a lot, and i know i didn't appreciate it, but what can i do when there wasn't any feelings anymore? i don't want to hurt him by keeping him hanging, and to see that he's happy now made me happy. and maybe that's real love is. and i don't say that he's an angel, he had his fair share in hurting me, and i think he hurt me like no one else ever done. maybe because i was really in love with him at that time. but long distance didn't work out for me, and i wasn't ready for any huge commitment, that's why i let him go. i learn that i become ridiculously ridiculous whenever i'm in a relationship, and i found out that i have some anger issue. but now that i'm 20, i learned my lesson. and i know next time i want to be in a relationship, i will try my best to keep my anger in check.

so i think that's all for now.
i gotta do some maths. until next time, toodles!!

love;

ndia :)